Since the time I remember, I have watched my mother being busy.
Busy- cooking for us when we couldn’t feed ourselves.
Busy- raising a family when we couldn’t do anything by ourselves.
Busy- taking care of each one of us when we fell sick.
Busy- worrying for us when we left our homes, to expand our horizons for our future.
And then she ran out of things to keep her busy. So, she started cooking, raising, caring, and worrying for her grandkids- the next generation in the family.
The innate nurturing quality that nature gave the Female version of the species, doesn’t let us rest in any phase of our life. We constantly want to be productive.
But, ladies, here’s the thing. Please permit yourself to leave aside the primal heroism of being the perfectionist and excuse yourself for sake of self-care. And if you have not done it since the time, you had your good head on your shoulders, you may start doing it now during this important phase of your life- called Menopause.
When I boarded a plane for the 1st time, I listened attentively to the safety instructions. One instruction, that has been engraved in my head strongly, is “Be sure to adjust your own oxygen mask before helping others”. That sounded very selfish in the first instance. But look at it logically and it is would make complete sense.
Make yourself and your needs, a Priority.
Me: Call it self-care or self-love- everything is legit.
You: But how do I start prioritizing my needs?
Me: Another interesting part of learning first aid is knowledge of triage.
Triage: decide the order of urgency or necessities in case of mass casualty
You: Well, Menopause is not a disaster.
Me: I agree. However, the changes, that occur inside our system, are no less than a mini casualty. We just mask it up and put our brave face on.
You: So how do I go about it?
Me: Oh, it’s easy. You just CATEGORIZE and SORT them analogous to TRIAGE.
If I had to put up my list, it may look somewhat like this:
Red zone (Critical and need immediate attention):
Health always tops the priority list. Make regular visits to your GP or Gynae. If there are any alarming symptoms- address them. Look at it this way- Our body is our longest and the only companion and it doesn’t come with spares.
Yellow Zone (Serious but ok with delayed response):
Holistic approach- skin, heart, and bone health, connect with your dearer ones, exercise, meditate to calm down, and do regular basic screenings.
Green zone (Minor issues need lesser care):
Collect the accessories to make your life better- portable fans, lubes, cotton 'n' linen bedspreads, connect with your close friends and family. Journaling helps you connect with yourself. Make healthier choices- Replace refined with wholemeal, choose the darker
version of chocolate to satiate the craving.
Black zone (Things you no longer need in life):
Detox, De-addict, and De-clutter. Do away with toxic and ungratifying relationships, habits, and things. Don’t let those things suck away your energy.
But that’s my list. Your story and your list might differ. So, grab your pen and a little diary and create your own Triage register.
Few wise words:
“Mammogramming your boobs is more important than Instagramming them”
Cheers.
About the blogger:
Dr. Tabassum Inamdar is a dynamic Homoeopath, a passionate artist, and an adventurer in life. From Medical corporate to Academics, she has well balanced her left brain and right brain with equal passion for Art. A sketch artist since her childhood, she is enchanted by theatre and writing. She has been a regular theatre performer in Dubai. She continues life’s adventure by trekking, Sky diving, or marshaling at Formula 1 tracks. You may stalk her on Instagram @doctabu or say hello on fb @tabu.inamdar
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